Most of us make New Years resolutions. Promises to make changes… lose weight, make more money, get organized, be happier. Many of us make the same resolutions every year. And for a couple of months, we are committed. And most of us fail to keep our resolutions.
Eighteen years ago, my husband and I decided to break tradition and choose a Mantra for the year. No more resolutions for us… only Mantras. A word or phrase that summed up the spirit of our intentions for the year.
You may be familiar with mantras as a repetitive prayer chanted to aid meditation. A Sanskrit word meaning “sacred counsel”, a New Year’s Mantra becomes divine guidance for twelve months.
On New Years Eve 2001, we chose our first Mantra – Ease. Everything we did that year was based on Ease. If we were struggling with a decision, we chose Ease and took the path of least resistance. That year was a year of change, big change. Our son graduated high school and went off to college, our daughter started high school, and we moved. We sold our home, a rental property, and gave up the lease on my health care clinic. With layers of real estate contingencies, our decision appeared convoluted, seemingly not one of Ease. It took a lot of faith to let go of everything and relax in the flow.
On a warm spring day in Ventura, I was waiting in my office when a new patient canceled her two-hour consultation. Frustrated without my computer to work on my book, and with two teenagers, there was lots to be done at home, yet I was stuck at my clinic… and then I had a brilliant idea. What if I could have it all? A house for our family, a barn for our horses, and room for my holistic health care practice, so healing and creating would be like eating and breathing? It was time to move.
Eight years before, I had dreamt of a little yellow house with white shutters in a forest. Twice before we tried to sell our old house yet we could not find the perfect place… until the year of Ease.
In 2002, California real estate was hot. Homes were selling in a matter of days at the top price, yet not for us. Our real estate agent fussed, my husband worried, but I knew that nothing would sell until we found the perfect place that would fill all of our needs. And I insisted on Ease. I refused to struggle with anything. Only that which presented itself with Ease would do.
Then we found something, not quite perfect, but it would do. Before putting in a bid, we wanted to explore the neighborhood. So we walked our dogs through the beautiful park, like Arbolada in Ojai and came across… a little yellow house with white shutters sheltered by trees. With a sale by owner sign right by the mailbox.
“This is it!” I cried, tied the dogs to an oak tree, and knocked on the door.
A woman opened the door, took one look at me, put her hand to her mouth, and whispered, “You… you’re the one who’s supposed to live here!”
I nodded. She sadly shook her head, “But we already have a bid.”
“Don’t worry,” I reassured her and myself, “this is the house from my dreams. Everything will work out.”
And it did. Everything came together with an Ease that took our breath away. We have chosen mantras each New Years since.
So how do you choose a Mantra?
Well, you can start by making resolutions or intentions for the New Year and then search for a theme in your resolutions. Underneath the surface of your list of resolutions, what do you truly desire? At the heart of your intentions, what does your soul need?
Are you resolving to make more money, get out of debt, spend more time with your loved ones? Perhaps your mantra is Freedom.
Or do you intend to lose weight, get your blood pressure down, eat better? Perhaps your mantra is Health.
Or perhaps life has been so crazy difficult lately, that Ease feels like the perfect Mantra for you.
Between Ease and Love, we have chosen mantras of Freedom, Peace, Being in the Moment, and Rejuvenation. The year we chose Rejuvenation, we got a jacuzzi and remodeled our kitchen, rejuvenating our bodies and our home.
After much consideration, I decided my mantra for 2021 would be JOY!
I need to train myself to ask: what will bring me joy today? And do that! It’s going to be hard because my tendency is to make a to-do list and get all that stuff done, then maybe if there’s time and I still have energy – I can enJoy myself.
Well enough of that.
2021 is the year I fill myself up with Joy – so my cup runneth over with Joy – whenever life bumps me.
May 2021 find you being your truth, loving yourself, and living your Mantra to the fullest!
Blessings of Love and Light,