The Secret to Sacred Relationships

by Deborah Maragopoulos FNP | Sep 7, 2016 | Blog, Mind/Body | 0 comments

What is the secret to finding your soul mate? What is the secret to having a safe, loving, intimate partnership with another? What is the secret to receiving all the love you deserve?

The secret is... You have to love yourself first.

Women struggle with loving themselves. They have a tendency to put everyone else first. And their own needs last. When you fly on a commercial airline, you are instructed to put on your oxygen mask before your child’s. Why? Because we must help ourselves before we can help others? How can we love another if we do not love ourselves?

What do you want from your most intimate relationship?

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When you respect yourself, trust yourself, appreciate yourself, become your best friend, closest confidante, experience fulfillment, passion, joy in your own company... when you love yourself, then you will get all this and more from your partner.

As you find balance so will he. If not, your partner will become uncomfortable in your wholeness and move on... freeing you to attract a more perfect complement.

When you embrace your divine feminine power, you will attract the divine masculine.

A patient of mine was going through the change. She was struggling not so much with the physical change which we were working on together, but with the change in her heart. She’s fallen out of love with her husband. No longer attracted to him, she fantasized about the perfect mate.

Before making any drastic changes, she sought my counsel. I advised that she have a ceremony. That she marry herself. Perform a Sacred Marriage between the divine feminine and the divine masculine within her.

She called recently to report that everything had changed. She performed the ritual and fell in love with him again.

What’s within us reflects on what’s outside. If you truly desire a Sacred Relationship—one that fulfills your body, mind, and soul — you must bring the divine masculine and the divine feminine within you into a sacred union.

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Frequently Asked Questions:

Can your hypothalamus cause weight gain?

Yes. The hypothalamus is the master regulator of metabolism, controlling how your body stores and burns energy through its signaling to the thyroid, adrenals, and pancreas. When the hypothalamus becomes dysregulated by chronic stress, poor sleep, inflammation, or blood sugar instability, it defends a higher weight "set point" — causing the body to hold onto fat regardless of diet or exercise. This makes hypothalamic dysfunction an upstream root cause of stubborn weight gain.


What is a weight set point and why won't mine move?

A weight set point is the body weight your hypothalamus works to defend, calibrated over time by stress, sleep, hormones, and inflammation. When you diet, the hypothalamus perceives scarcity and responds by slowing metabolism, increasing hunger hormones, and suppressing satiety signals to return you to that set point. This is why most people regain lost weight within two to five years of conventional dieting — the set point itself was never recalibrated, only temporarily overridden.


Why do I gain weight under stress even when I'm not eating more?

Chronic stress raises cortisol, which disrupts blood sugar regulation, promotes abdominal fat storage, and signals the hypothalamus that the body is under threat. In survival mode, the hypothalamus defends fat stores and slows metabolism — so weight can increase even without any change in calorie intake. The stress chemistry, not the food, is driving the weight gain, which is why stress reduction is essential to any lasting metabolic reset.


Why do I regain weight after stopping GLP-1 medications?

GLP-1 medications work peripherally on appetite and gastric signaling, but they do not address the underlying hypothalamic dysregulation that sets your defended weight. Because the hypothalamic set point is never recalibrated, the body resumes defending its original weight once the medication stops — leading to significant regain. Long-term success requires restoring hypothalamic regulation so the set point itself lowers, rather than relying on appetite suppression alone.


How long does it take to reset your metabolism?

Genuine metabolic recalibration takes a minimum of 90 days, because the hypothalamus needs consistent signals of safety and sufficiency before it will lower its defended set point. This differs from a diet, which produces temporary suppression the body quickly corrects. A 90-day reset typically moves through three phases: stabilizing stress chemistry (days 1–30), rebuilding metabolic efficiency (days 31–60), and lowering the weight set point (days 61–90).


Why does my thyroid feel slow even though my labs are "normal"?

Under chronic stress, the body converts thyroid hormone into reverse T3, which blocks active thyroid receptors and slows metabolism at the cellular level — even when standard lab values appear normal. This means you can experience genuine symptoms of slow metabolism, such as fatigue, cold intolerance, and brain fog, while your thyroid panel looks unremarkable. Addressing the upstream hypothalamic and stress signaling often improves thyroid conversion and symptoms.


Is stubborn weight gain a willpower problem?

No. Stubborn weight gain is a signaling problem, not a willpower problem. The hypothalamus governs weight through survival mechanisms that operate below conscious control — defending its set point by slowing metabolism and increasing hunger when it perceives threat. No amount of discipline can override this system; lasting change comes from restoring hypothalamic regulation through reduced stress, balanced blood sugar, restorative sleep, and targeted nutritional support.

About the Author - Deborah Maragopoulos FNP

Known as the Hormone Queen®️, I’ve made it my mission to help everyone - no matter their age - balance their hormones, and live the energy and joy their DNA and true destiny desires. See more about me my story here...

     

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