You start loving yourself as much as your children love you.
Years ago when I was in the midst of heavy triathalon competition (AKA my OCD eating disorder), I was reading a book to my five year old daughter and she was trying to get comfy on my bony shoulder.
She sighed and said, “Mommy, where did the real women go?” I asked what she meant and she replied, “You know the ones in the paintings that are so soft and comfy like Grandma Honey.”
My mother was always ashamed of her body, but my daughter took great comfort in her curves.
Much later after I started Genesis Gold® and put on the five pounds my body needed to finally have normal periods, I had to make peace with female body fat and remembering that day my daughter wished I was a nice plump mommy helped me appreciate my new soft, luscious form.
Our mothers may not have shown us how to love our bodies., especially if they didn’t love their own. As children we absorb everything around us. As a new mother, I was so acutely aware of this and tried desperately to not speak badly of myself in front of my children, I never used the word “Fat”. Instead I used fit or not-fit.
I remember the heartache I felt when my three year old niece looked at her naked bottom in the mirror and called herself fat. I knew she was mimicking my sister who learned body-shaming from our mother.
So let’s help ourselves by helping our daughters and granddaughters, our nieces and other beloved little girls who look up to us. Let’s love ourselves. Show them that being a woman with all our luscious curves is the most amazing thing in the world. Speak kindly to yourself out loud and silently. Let your body feel the love. And that little girl will mimic you. And hopefully grow up loving herself.
And you too will be healed.